Forgiveness
Forgiveness is wonderful, but can't be had through barter, manipulation, or the pulling of punches. If you want honest forgiveness, rather than capitulation, then you have to take an honest look at yourself, your faults, what it is you are responsible for. Good friendships aren't based on point scoring or who has the upper hand. They are based on mutual enjoyment of another's company, respect, caring, trust, and many other things besides. Abuse either, and you cannot rightly expect good things to be returned to you. Don't point fingers unless you're willing to point at yourself, or be pointed at.