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I've never been one to insinuate myself into the attention space of other people. I don't just approach strangers and take up conversation with them, start babbling to people who wouldn't know me from Adam about gawd knows what. It's never been my way, and it's highly unlikely that it will ever be my way. I don't have much luck the times I have done this. It simply does not work out for me. That's fine. It's simply not a talent I have, and I can live with that. I used to feel embarrassed about it, too, ashamed even, so wrong in my inability or dislike or lack of desire or whatever it is that causes me not to push myself onto others, but no more. It's my way. It's how I am. Sure it may not work out so well for me socially, but that's the way it is.
I do wish, however, that other people would stop telling me that it's something I have to do if I expect to fill in the social gaps of my life. I don't see why I have to force myself on anyone.
I've watched others do it, get into someone else's dance space. Sometimes it's admirable that some people can have the sort of talent that lets them find pals anywhere they go, and sometimes the manner in which they go about this insinuation is just embarassing. What gets me about some people, is not so much that they get into someone else's breathing room, it's the seeming assumption they have that the person they're inflicting themselves upon wants to be trapped into socialising with them. I don't know about you, but there are any number of strangers around here to whom I would in no way wish to be roped, in no way wish to be trapped into being an audience for.
I think, honestly, that the biggest reason why I don't do it, is because I don't believe in forcing anyone to do anything, like have to share spit space with me. I don't think it's fair to expect any stranger to put up with you, and certainly unfair to assume that they give a shit, or would. My feeling has always been that if someone wants to talk to me, they'll do so - unless, of course, they're just like me - in which case, they don't approach me at all.